Two sisters got married in same family with two brothers. They came from a very stable and loving family but we all have to go through challenges in life. So everyone started comparing them and how they both were better or lesser than each other. Somewhere this gave a highly competitive spirit to younger one. The elder one tried telling her what was happening and how they should stay away from all such things but to no avail. Now, hear the stories of two brothers. The younger one had dark complexion and was in job and the elder one was very good looking but could not find any job even after 2-3 years of marriage. The younger one had more money than the elder one which gave a very powerful feeling to the younger one. After 3-4 years, the elder one met a friend in US, who offered him a job there and they shifted to US. Real problems started after that. Now, the elder one who was suffering for last 3-4 years had everything. More money, better looking husband and they also planned their families. Younger one started feeling jealous and this feeling kept increasing. With the passing time the younger couple did not grow as much as the elder one. The elder one tried supporting but younger one always pushed her away saying, she has no idea how it is to be in her shoes.
It is not an uncommon scenario. But it’s a simple law of Universe.
Universe replicates our feelings. Whatever we are feeling, it will magnify them and present them in front of us. When we have jealousy, we are operating with the feelings of lack and a feeling of lack will create further lack. When we are contended and operate with the feeling of abundance and gratitude, we create further abundance. So we need to gauge our own feeling to see what we have in life rather than blaming or taunting someone else. So what shall we do?
- Count your blessings
- Be grateful
- Be happy in what you have first
- Have a vision for what you want
Focus on self for creation rather than what someone else has. What you focus upon grows stronger. So you must know where to focus your energy.
One 45 years old gentleman said that I have a sensitive foot. It keeps getting hurt and if I stand for 15-20 minutes, then it would pain for the entire night. I can’t walk or stand for a long time. While saying this, his foot was aching. I asked him, if he has been telling this to himself all this while and he accepted. Then it would keep happening again and again. So what should I do because it is happening. Change your instructions pattern. But how it can be done? Seems like you have started identifying with pain so much and you are possessing it. You are not letting it go away. But it is there, then release it. Finally he agreed to do as I say. We went to a park and he sat on the ground. The grass was little wet and he was hesitant. But he had promised so he abided by that. As soon as he sat, He started feeling very heavy. He had gone there to establish his connection with Earth and it started happening. First he thanked Earth, Air, Water, Sun and Ether for helping him in releasing the pain. He started feeling like something is flowing towards Earth. He started repeating only one thing “Thank you for healthy feet”. After 30 minutes of sitting on ground and meditating on Thank you for healthy feet, we started going back. He felt better and within three days he reported that his pain was healed. All this while he kept repeating Thank you for healthy feet. Since then he has not reported any problem in his feet and he enjoys a healthy walk.
We are a part of big energy system and we manage our energy through our thoughts and feelings. Any change in feelings will change our energy. Sometimes a negative thought may create a blockage in our energy system which appear as one or other ailment. However, if something has happened, does not mean it has to repeat also. Any disease, any pain which has come, can be released and should be released. Generally whenever something happens, we get stuck on that. First it has never happened to me before and then we say I have this pain, I keep getting this etc. We start identifying with the blockage and unconsciously we spread that. More we focus upon that, more it would spread. Like it has never happened before, it does not have to happen in future too. However, for that we need to release it. For that we can simply connect with the five elements of nature as they are pure and release the problem. Energy when gets into touch with another energy form, they create a balance. So when we connect with a purer energy of nature, our energy starts rising, which starts healing our mind, body and soul. Along with that we can simply start feeling grateful for a healthy body and our focus on health would increase our health. We all are here to have a happy and abundant life but our focus decides what we would have.
Sometimes, life brings us at a point that we have no choice other than following Universal guidance. Though we were receiving that guidance earlier too but somewhere we were in denial as we had the fear of travelling unknown path and also of leaving behind what we are holding. Why are we scared of walking that path? May be it’s the fear of unknown. We are cautious when we know it’s danger, but we are more scared when we have to enter into a dark Jungle. Because we do not know what would be in there. We have just heard stories of that.
Similarly, we have heard stories of people following their inner calling, and following a different or new path and what kind of difficulties they have faced. But the question is, aren’t we anyway facing problems in the life without following inner calling too. Challenges would always be there just that some are known and some are unknown. We may feel more prepared to handle the challenges which we know. That’s the only difference. However, we need to know one more thing. Let’s say, a boy chooses to get married against his father’s will, so he would lose his father’s support may be for sometime and he has the fear of losing society’s approval too. But if he follows his father, the father will support in everything and even in the future marital problems too. Similarly, if we follow big daddy, he would be supporting all the way in every challenge. Supporting in the case of going against Universal guidance would depend from case to case basis. But if his guidance is followed, he is definitely there on every step.
We were born without fear. I have seen it in my growing babies. They have no fear of dark or big sounds or anything. Everyone get’s surprised that they can walk into a dark room with a smile and the answer is simple, I have never said that please do not go, it’s dark in there. If they burst a balloon, I laugh and they laugh along. I do not act like something has happened. For everything they look at my face and copy the reaction.
Universe brought us with no fear and wants us to live a life with no fear. It never promises there would be no challenges, but it always promises to walk along. When Universe is holding our hand, why do we have a fear. We just have to allow Universe to guide us and we would be able to handle any challenge. Walk your path!
Factors like any particular person, a group of people, the government, nature, even God, etc. cannot be held responsible for what has happened t0 me in my life, up to this moment. It is my and my responsibility alone. Equally, what my future holds depends on me to a very large extent. Rather, whatever I choose to do at this moment is already creating my destiny for tomorrow. I shouldn’t forget that the only real time I have for creating my future is the present, now.
Karma teaches me that at every step, I am the creator of my own little world, the creator of my future circumstances. I also am the creator of the environment immediately around me. On a bigger level I am a co-creator or partner, together with God, of a positive future of the world, of the world of tomorrow, of the world of peace, love and happiness. So my responsibility and my ability to influence the future is not restricted to my life alone.
That I can create the future of my choice – of love, peace and happiness, for myself and others, can appear as unreasonable optimism. It’s just being realistic. What I create is what is going to happen. If I choose to transmit love and peace in my interactions with others today, I create relationships, in the present and for the future, based on those qualities.
We commonly use the terms – my ego got hurt or I think your ego got hurt. You hurt my ego is nothing but you hurt or harmed the image that I carry of myself (as discussed yesterday) with me each second everyday. Because I carry it with me all the time, I have become attached to it. e.g. If, on a particular day, you reach home late from office and your wife, who is angry with you, accuses of not being a family man and one who doesn’t give enough time to her and the children. Your reasons for reaching home late may be genuine or not, your wife may be right or wrong on that particular day. In either case, you carry an image of yourself, all the time, as being a very loving, caring father and husband, who has been responsible for the all-round growth and development of the family in all respects since the family was created. Your wife’s words basically pinch that invisible image, as a result of which you feel insulted and hurt and you react angrily, not necessarily in front of your wife, but it could be in front of someone else or even just internally. This phenomenon happens many times, in various different situations with different people throughout the day and every day.
The image that we all carry of our selves is made of various traits or characteristics, obviously the characteristics of each one’s self-created image are different. These characteristics of the image may or may not actually exist inside the real self, but whenever someone challenges any of those characteristics or tries to suggest to us that one of those characteristics is not ours or does not exist inside us, we react
The life-plan would be made to ensure that the lesson of patience comes up in all aspects of his life. So, he may have interruptions in his career more than other people whose lesson is not patience. In his business, his work force may be difficult or his machines may break down often. Because of his plan of learning, he may have difficult kids as well, who cause him delays. Additionally, he may meet the red light very often on the road, while hurrying to make up for lost time. He may be born with a tendency to obesity so that he has to apply patience to exercise to slim down.
As a soul, he has to learn to apply patience. If everything was happening perfectly, there would not be any need to apply patience and he would not be able to learn this soul lesson. The person is forced to encounter the negative energy of impatience repeatedly till he masters it and transcends it to patience, an energy of a positive frequency. Only when this person learns patience would he be able to achieve his goals and feel respected from within.
But, the negative energy of impatience is not easy to master. It would keep pulling the person’s mind in the opposite direction, and make him act against the soul plan. In this process of a tussle between the negative and the positive, this person may become impatient and choose short-cuts to success and power. Thus, he may start using wrong means of making money, exploit his work-force, become a criminal, and even abusive towards his children.
The person may become materially successful by using the wrong means but the soul’s purpose of incarnation would remain unfinished. The person would not feel respected and would not be able to create happiness with his success for himself or others. By choosing actions which create negative energy, the soul would create negative karma for itself. To find happiness, it would have to pay a karmic debt to the souls it harms in order to neutralize the negative energy it created.
Dr. Swati Shiv
Author, Healer & Happiness Consultant