What others have done is their choice. How you take a step forward will decide your life.
He came to me full of revenge because his wife had cheated on him. I asked him what would you get and he said that I would get satisfaction of she getting punished for her wrong doings. She would get punished and anyway she would get punished if she has done anything wrong, but what would you get? He thought for a while and said nothing. No! Let me tell you, you will get a tree of hatred and anger, which will keep burning you continuously. After that you will get another tree of guilt. All these things will damage your life completely. Revenge is a path of self destruction. His next question was, so should I let the sinner go!
I wanted to laugh but the biggest question is, haven’t we done any sin? Who hasn’t done any? Haven’t we lied? haven’t we cheated? Haven’t we done any wrong to anyone?
I did not say anything and I told him, you would spoil only your life. You will not get anything else. let time decides. It is not unfair to anyone. Universe takes care of everything on it’s own. He asked then what should he do? He should simply FORGIVE! How can I forgive a sinner? We can never decide who is a sinner and who is not. When we take a decision to forgive, we simply have to forgive unconditionally. We set ourselves free. It is the most difficult part of any pain. We go through any pain and then we forgive the person who has given us pain and yes it is not the virtue of a weak person. For this, we have to be really really strong.
He did what he promised but he started cursing himself for not doing anything (This was not forgiveness). But then he went through major health challenges in life and his wife took care of him. She did not sleep for months to support him and that time real forgiveness happened. That time he cried and said that i was praying to God that help me in forgiving her but inside I was cursing everything and everyone and this is how it happened.
Universe heard all as always. When we curse or bless, we do it to ourselves before we do it to someone else. So he suffered health issues. He asked energy to help him in forgiving her and he could do that too.
Let time decide. Let go and let god. You set yourself free. You be who you are.
Someone said that, I have nothing to be grateful for. I have lost everything and I am suffering so much. Made me wonder, first of all we need to receive something to lose and who gave us that and then what makes us think we are entitled for everything?
It reminded me of a story. There was a sage, who was meditating in the middle of a desert. There was a Pomegranate tree under which he was living. This tree will produce one fruit everyday. So the sage will take the fruit, offer it’s juice to the God and have it. One day, he was tired of his routine and started complaining to God that I am offering you juice also everyday. i am meditating so hard for you, why am I not meeting you. God said, you are eating only one fruit everyday and offering that to me also but have you ever thought that in the midst of the desert, why you are receiving at least one pomegranate everyday? Who is giving you one fruit everyday? (Means, God was making sure that this sage gets his nourishment everyday).
So the learning is, either to see it with ego, that I get only one fruit and I am serving it or be grateful that I am receiving it.
This learning is applicable everywhere in life. What challenge is bringing what blessing in life we do not know. We never know, what’s happening behind the scene. So be grateful for all the challenges, all the blessings, just be grateful. No complaints and no accusations. We cannot lose faith, we cannot lose hope, we can simply be grateful for every moment and the life in every moment. We do not know, how much effort Universe is putting in every moment for each one of us to make sure, we are doing better and live. How much effort parents, put in to manage whole house, children, food, health and everything? Still we feel that we have always missed in something. So can we imagine all the efforts which are going in for billions of people, all the creatures, all the vegetation and environment and everything else as a system?
We can never. We complain because we are thinking only as a single unit. So just be grateful for the moment you are in! See the magic behind everything!
Two sisters got married in same family with two brothers. They came from a very stable and loving family but we all have to go through challenges in life. So everyone started comparing them and how they both were better or lesser than each other. Somewhere this gave a highly competitive spirit to younger one. The elder one tried telling her what was happening and how they should stay away from all such things but to no avail. Now, hear the stories of two brothers. The younger one had dark complexion and was in job and the elder one was very good looking but could not find any job even after 2-3 years of marriage. The younger one had more money than the elder one which gave a very powerful feeling to the younger one. After 3-4 years, the elder one met a friend in US, who offered him a job there and they shifted to US. Real problems started after that. Now, the elder one who was suffering for last 3-4 years had everything. More money, better looking husband and they also planned their families. Younger one started feeling jealous and this feeling kept increasing. With the passing time the younger couple did not grow as much as the elder one. The elder one tried supporting but younger one always pushed her away saying, she has no idea how it is to be in her shoes.
It is not an uncommon scenario. But it’s a simple law of Universe.
Universe replicates our feelings. Whatever we are feeling, it will magnify them and present them in front of us. When we have jealousy, we are operating with the feelings of lack and a feeling of lack will create further lack. When we are contended and operate with the feeling of abundance and gratitude, we create further abundance. So we need to gauge our own feeling to see what we have in life rather than blaming or taunting someone else. So what shall we do?
- Count your blessings
- Be grateful
- Be happy in what you have first
- Have a vision for what you want
Focus on self for creation rather than what someone else has. What you focus upon grows stronger. So you must know where to focus your energy.
One 45 years old gentleman said that I have a sensitive foot. It keeps getting hurt and if I stand for 15-20 minutes, then it would pain for the entire night. I can’t walk or stand for a long time. While saying this, his foot was aching. I asked him, if he has been telling this to himself all this while and he accepted. Then it would keep happening again and again. So what should I do because it is happening. Change your instructions pattern. But how it can be done? Seems like you have started identifying with pain so much and you are possessing it. You are not letting it go away. But it is there, then release it. Finally he agreed to do as I say. We went to a park and he sat on the ground. The grass was little wet and he was hesitant. But he had promised so he abided by that. As soon as he sat, He started feeling very heavy. He had gone there to establish his connection with Earth and it started happening. First he thanked Earth, Air, Water, Sun and Ether for helping him in releasing the pain. He started feeling like something is flowing towards Earth. He started repeating only one thing “Thank you for healthy feet”. After 30 minutes of sitting on ground and meditating on Thank you for healthy feet, we started going back. He felt better and within three days he reported that his pain was healed. All this while he kept repeating Thank you for healthy feet. Since then he has not reported any problem in his feet and he enjoys a healthy walk.
We are a part of big energy system and we manage our energy through our thoughts and feelings. Any change in feelings will change our energy. Sometimes a negative thought may create a blockage in our energy system which appear as one or other ailment. However, if something has happened, does not mean it has to repeat also. Any disease, any pain which has come, can be released and should be released. Generally whenever something happens, we get stuck on that. First it has never happened to me before and then we say I have this pain, I keep getting this etc. We start identifying with the blockage and unconsciously we spread that. More we focus upon that, more it would spread. Like it has never happened before, it does not have to happen in future too. However, for that we need to release it. For that we can simply connect with the five elements of nature as they are pure and release the problem. Energy when gets into touch with another energy form, they create a balance. So when we connect with a purer energy of nature, our energy starts rising, which starts healing our mind, body and soul. Along with that we can simply start feeling grateful for a healthy body and our focus on health would increase our health. We all are here to have a happy and abundant life but our focus decides what we would have.
Sometimes, life brings us at a point that we have no choice other than following Universal guidance. Though we were receiving that guidance earlier too but somewhere we were in denial as we had the fear of travelling unknown path and also of leaving behind what we are holding. Why are we scared of walking that path? May be it’s the fear of unknown. We are cautious when we know it’s danger, but we are more scared when we have to enter into a dark Jungle. Because we do not know what would be in there. We have just heard stories of that.
Similarly, we have heard stories of people following their inner calling, and following a different or new path and what kind of difficulties they have faced. But the question is, aren’t we anyway facing problems in the life without following inner calling too. Challenges would always be there just that some are known and some are unknown. We may feel more prepared to handle the challenges which we know. That’s the only difference. However, we need to know one more thing. Let’s say, a boy chooses to get married against his father’s will, so he would lose his father’s support may be for sometime and he has the fear of losing society’s approval too. But if he follows his father, the father will support in everything and even in the future marital problems too. Similarly, if we follow big daddy, he would be supporting all the way in every challenge. Supporting in the case of going against Universal guidance would depend from case to case basis. But if his guidance is followed, he is definitely there on every step.
We were born without fear. I have seen it in my growing babies. They have no fear of dark or big sounds or anything. Everyone get’s surprised that they can walk into a dark room with a smile and the answer is simple, I have never said that please do not go, it’s dark in there. If they burst a balloon, I laugh and they laugh along. I do not act like something has happened. For everything they look at my face and copy the reaction.
Universe brought us with no fear and wants us to live a life with no fear. It never promises there would be no challenges, but it always promises to walk along. When Universe is holding our hand, why do we have a fear. We just have to allow Universe to guide us and we would be able to handle any challenge. Walk your path!
Factors like any particular person, a group of people, the government, nature, even God, etc. cannot be held responsible for what has happened t0 me in my life, up to this moment. It is my and my responsibility alone. Equally, what my future holds depends on me to a very large extent. Rather, whatever I choose to do at this moment is already creating my destiny for tomorrow. I shouldn’t forget that the only real time I have for creating my future is the present, now.
Karma teaches me that at every step, I am the creator of my own little world, the creator of my future circumstances. I also am the creator of the environment immediately around me. On a bigger level I am a co-creator or partner, together with God, of a positive future of the world, of the world of tomorrow, of the world of peace, love and happiness. So my responsibility and my ability to influence the future is not restricted to my life alone.
That I can create the future of my choice – of love, peace and happiness, for myself and others, can appear as unreasonable optimism. It’s just being realistic. What I create is what is going to happen. If I choose to transmit love and peace in my interactions with others today, I create relationships, in the present and for the future, based on those qualities.