During a party, I met a lady whom I really liked. She had been through divorce and bad experience of her marriage. She really worked hard and resurrected herself and has established a business. I really felt happy when I looked at her strength. After few days, she called up and we decided to meet over coffee. All the time, she was cursing all males and why we should not trust males. I was shocked! I felt the pain inside her and after 15 years of divorce, she was still suffering as she was holding onto that pain. When I asked her if she would like to release that pain, she did not accept. She justified that she is doing a right thing by cursing all males. You cannot help someone if he/she does not want to be helped. After few days, I found out that lady has made a group of ladies, who meet regularly and their agenda is to find out how bad all the husbands are. One newly married girl joined their group and was almost on the verge of divorce. She is not a
bad lady, in fact, I feel she is a very nice lady. But by building hatred against men, she is not punishing anyone but herself. She is in emotional pain for so many years and she is not ready to let go off that. To marry again or not is her choice but this hatred is burning her inside. One gentleman was in depression because 20 years back, because of some issue, his parents did not talk to him for two months. One lady was in constant fights with her husband because 18 years back when they got married, initially he used to support his mother for few years. Now the mother is dead too, but still she keeps taunting at him spoiling the relationship. When she could accept the fact, then she was able to bring harmony into her relationship.
Life is a very beautiful saga of everything.
You have few moments of happiness and few moments of pain. One can relish happiness only after experiencing pain. Or else, we would never feel that we have been happy and we would not realize how blessed we are. When I started teaching slum children, I realized that they go through one or other torture almost everyday. Still they come with a smile. Someone’s uncle is abusing her daily. Someone does not have enough food for days. Someone’s father wakes her up from sleep and hits her every day, punches her, abuses her. Someone’s husband has kicked her out and got a new female. There are countless stories and we have no glimpse of that kind of life. Still we feel our problems are huge, may be because we haven’t seen enough problems or let’s say every one is born with own set of problems. Pain would come and go and when you want to choose only one side of life, you will suffer. However, if you accept life the way
it is and release something which no longer exists, you wou
ld be able to realize the beauty of present. Let’s say, pain is like a bitter medicine which you have to take to enjoy a perfectly healthy life. Do not keep the taste of that medicine always in your mouth or it will spoil the taste of sweets and tasty things which you will be eating. Holding onto pain is like the same and it spoils the fun of happy moments.
Pain will come and go and it is inevitable. Be happy in what you have right now and be joyous. Accept everything the way it is, instead of getting attached to certain things. We look forward to life the way we want it to happen. If it does not happen the way we had thought, we suffer. We are attached to future results and how past did not happen as per us. Instead of that, accept the things the way they are, be happy in life.