Most of us have heard of the story of a sculpturer who made a very beautiful sculpture. He was working on his next one and was carving on a rock. One visitor came and started appreciating him and he said that you make very nice sculptures. He smiled and said that I don’t make anything. The rock already had everything inside it. I just removed what was not required. Similarly we all have what we need. We just need to remove what we do not want. We already have the power to achieve whatever we have dreamed of. However, we need to realize that we have the power and for that we must be ready to embrace and endure everything. But what makes sure that after enduring everything I would become strong. The sculpture comes out of the rock after it is ready to bear all the tools and beating. If the rock would start breaking before that, then it would never turn into a beautiful sculpture. But what needs to be removed? Fear, doubts, jealousy, ego. Carve out everything with love. Hold your tools with love and then only fine linings appear. What if we are beaten more than we can endure? What if we do not know how much we can endure? The rock does not know how much it can endure. It’s the sculpturer who knows and also where to carve what. So who is the sculpturer here? It makes me laugh. There is only one master who has carved beautiful idols from the rocks and that is God. He is the one who is carving out everyone. Can we doubt his skills? But it is too much to bear everything? When you are beaten more, it means finer will be the sculpture. So what do we do?
Hold yourself tightly, have faith and keep marching ahead with love. If you become rigid, you will break. But if you stand strong, you will come out as a beautiful sculpture. But how do I know if I can stand that? What if other sculptures are more beautiful than what I am? That is how ego compares. It is not scared of what others are, it wants to be best and keeps comparing. However, it forgets that the master will make every sculpture as best one from his side. A seed never knew it could become a tree. From a tree thousands of seeds come out. Every seed has its own life. But every seed has to be ready to be buried under the pressure of Earth, stay grounded in floods, bear the burnt of sunlight and then come out. Then it grows stronger to become a tree. When it becomes a tree, it realizes all these elements were and always are necessary for its life. If we do not give sunlight, Earth, water or air to a seed, it can never grow and still cannot survive. So whatever, difficult things we are facing in our lives are necessary for our growth and life or else we cannot survive. We will never be able to become a tree. Every seed has own life and it does not have to be threatened by life of other seeds. Because one tree does not kill another tree.
So we must believe in what we have and who we are and be ready to stand strong and face everything to become a tree which can nurture, give fruits, and give shed.
During a party, I met a lady whom I really liked. She had been through divorce and bad experience of her marriage. She really worked hard and resurrected herself and has established a business. I really felt happy when I looked at her strength. After few days, she called up and we decided to meet over coffee. All the time, she was cursing all males and why we should not trust males. I was shocked! I felt the pain inside her and after 15 years of divorce, she was still suffering as she was holding onto that pain. When I asked her if she would like to release that pain, she did not accept. She justified that she is doing a right thing by cursing all males. You cannot help someone if he/she does not want to be helped. After few days, I found out that lady has made a group of ladies, who meet regularly and their agenda is to find out how bad all the husbands are. One newly married girl joined their group and was almost on the verge of divorce. She is not a
bad lady, in fact, I feel she is a very nice lady. But by building hatred against men, she is not punishing anyone but herself. She is in emotional pain for so many years and she is not ready to let go off that. To marry again or not is her choice but this hatred is burning her inside. One gentleman was in depression because 20 years back, because of some issue, his parents did not talk to him for two months. One lady was in constant fights with her husband because 18 years back when they got married, initially he used to support his mother for few years. Now the mother is dead too, but still she keeps taunting at him spoiling the relationship. When she could accept the fact, then she was able to bring harmony into her relationship.
Life is a very beautiful saga of everything.
You have few moments of happiness and few moments of pain. One can relish happiness only after experiencing pain. Or else, we would never feel that we have been happy and we would not realize how blessed we are. When I started teaching slum children, I realized that they go through one or other torture almost everyday. Still they come with a smile. Someone’s uncle is abusing her daily. Someone does not have enough food for days. Someone’s father wakes her up from sleep and hits her every day, punches her, abuses her. Someone’s husband has kicked her out and got a new female. There are countless stories and we have no glimpse of that kind of life. Still we feel our problems are huge, may be because we haven’t seen enough problems or let’s say every one is born with own set of problems. Pain would come and go and when you want to choose only one side of life, you will suffer. However, if you accept life the way
it is and release something which no longer exists, you wou
ld be able to realize the beauty of present. Let’s say, pain is like a bitter medicine which you have to take to enjoy a perfectly healthy life. Do not keep the taste of that medicine always in your mouth or it will spoil the taste of sweets and tasty things which you will be eating. Holding onto pain is like the same and it spoils the fun of happy moments.
Pain will come and go and it is inevitable. Be happy in what you have right now and be joyous. Accept everything the way it is, instead of getting attached to certain things. We look forward to life the way we want it to happen. If it does not happen the way we had thought, we suffer. We are attached to future results and how past did not happen as per us. Instead of that, accept the things the way they are, be happy in life.