Resistance to any aspect of our selves, or against any past or present experience, creates judgment and painful emotions within the psyche. When we judge ourselves or the events of our past as being “bad” or “wrong” and then suppress those aspects of ourselves, we create a division within the psyche where the pain is stored. Because our true state of being is wholeness, love and joy, any pain that exists within us must be addressed and “loved back home” so that we can once again be whole within ourselves.
Unfortunately, our egoistic desire to only view ourselves in a positive light and for others to always see us as “good people” automatically prevents us from admitting our own pain and limitations to ourselves. Our desire to “not feel that pain anymore” creates a resistance point that will subjugate the memory of that pain into a “second class thought” that we attempt to banish from the kingdom of our minds.
This refusal to acknowledge our pain, faults and shortcomings prevents us from truly healing ourselves and our minds. Most people automatically bury these thoughts as they try to rise to the surface of the mind for contemplation and analysis, choosing instead to rationalize “bad” behavior (self-judged, of course) or push away painful memories because “that’s in the past and I have to move on” or because they believe that “dwelling on the negative” creates more “negative” experiences.
If we can instead have the courage to allow painful memories to rise to the surface of our consciousness, then without judgment set the ego aside and allow ourselves to truly *feel* the emotions that are associated with the memory, an opportunity occurs to transmute the emotions of pain and suffering, which only exist due to judging the memory as “bad” and resisting it.