Every day it is more essential of how one feels than how much one has. We all have 90 % of nice things in life to feel happy and 10 % of unhappy things to work on .Let us not make the ratio other wise. It is told that every morning one must choose from the 2 questions.
1. Do I want to be happy?
2 Do I want to be unhappy ?
Life depends on one’s own choice . Each day one must choose between and live up to that. While driving ,the traffic may be so much or one lorry driver may not drive properly or all red signs , it might upset our mind. Expecting the traffic to be as we thought of or expecting people to behave as we think them to do so or the signals to be as we expect them ,one gets disturbed. Still when one lorry driver is going on wrong side without giving way for you many times ,No one goes straight and hits him. Why? It is to save one’s own life that one goes behind the lorry .Here one adjusts to the mistake of others for fear of his own peace of mind and life. Similarly On the road of LIFE one must adjust to the traffic called relatives. The red signs are obstacles. That is it.
We meet many people with different attitudes,habits,tastes,likes and dislikes very often. If we cannot cherish and appreciate the differences it will be like NOT appreciating a flower bouquet which has various colorful flowers
Mr.T T Rangarajan says he loves the one sign ‘ U TURN ‘ which hints us to turn or change than waiting for others to do so to have our own peace. It seems he writes under his signature ‘excited to be alive’. It shows each one of us has many to learn from him
Many times we do not want to know the sex of the baby before birth takes place and we do not want to know the ending of the movie as we want surprise / suspense respectively .If that be the case why do we need to know our future going to palmists or astrologers. Lets accept the suspense and climaxes in our life
One person stood under a mango tree and waited for oranges to come out of mango tree ..Even if he waits there for years it does not happen. If we get angry on mango tree for not yielding oranges it looks ridiculous. Similarly Mother, father,husband, wife,son, daughter, relatives, friends, colleagues and others…..All are born with their OWN designed habits , nature and aptitudes. We cannot expect anything from what they do not have in their built- in- mechanism. If we understand this, managing with anybody becomes easier.
In my own existence I need to accept many of what I have and of what I do not have.. If I wish to paint like Leonardo or sing like Latha Mangeshkar It adds to my depression. One must accept with realities .
Why do we study hard ? To be happy .
Why do we try for a job ? To be happy.
Why do we get married ?To be happy.
Why do we eat ?To be happy?
Why do we meet friends ? To be happy.. Thus we do all things TO BE HAPPY. Then why are we NOT happy ?
Even if we have another birth there is no guarantee about being born as human again . We also know that we cannot eat gold. We all know that we cannot have negative emotions and still try to be happy. Finally spiritual path is also not going to temple etc but being committed to be happy. Commitment lies in NON- COMPLAINING. Instead, do something to rectify the mistake . For Ex – If one finds mistakes in politics ,let that man become a politician to rectify.
Let me comclude with a small incident.once in the shopping center one mom saw her 4 year old crying. Mom kept on saying ‘jennifer relax’, ‘ do not react’, ‘be calm ‘, ‘cool down’, jennifer relax’. Seeing this one old man asked that mom as to why she is using all big terminology with the kid.Immediately mom replied saying that she is jennifer. Like this we must tell ourselves to relax and be HAPPY.
May All Be Happy.